I see sometimes we make the same mistakes over and over afraid of change it's clear that I make the same mistakes over and over when it comes to giving someone my time and love I go above and beyond for the person that I am with never do I get the same in return I ask myself is it me it must be because how could someone ever allow their self to be treated this way. I have learned to let go and choose myself before my boyfriend for I am not selfish but I see I'm always the one trying to make things work in my relationship I am the one always fighting because I was always taught when you are in a relationship you stick bye the person you are with until the end you have your say so but you never walk away. Your building a life with this person spending time with one another you can't walk away so I never have I have stayed bye and watched my boyfriend cheat on me but yet I forgave and kept our relationship going I have stuck bye when my boyfriend was down and out holding him down and putting money in his pocket and making sure the bills were taken care of until he got back on his feet. I have stood bye and watched and sat while my ex would talk about how good another woman was looking but all in the back of my mind this isn't right this is not what a relationship should be it should be even it should be happiness of one another it shouldn't be any cheating at any time yes I understand a man is going to do what he is going to do but no there comes a time when a man should give up his player ways and know what he has at home never wanting to hurt her saying I have a good thing at home I never want to lose that and I feel that goes for a woman as well when you have a good man or woman bye your side treat them with the love and respect they deserve.
I say if a person doesn't see you for who you truly are then you need to leave if they aren't willing to change and stuck in there selfish ways then you shouldn't stay or deal with anyone who doesn't make you happy I had to learn the hard way trust me i mean the hard way people always ask me nia how do I get over someone that I adore and love so much I say to leave and if they ever come back it was meant to be but if they dont then you have the answer to your own question i can not speak of someone else's relationship but my own i can not say what someone else is doing but i can say always fight for someone who's willing to fight for you if they aren't then leave and never turn back I know it sucks I wish I could see everyone happy when it comes to love but in today's day in age we all have lost our values and respect for one another and what the true meaning of being in a relationship means it's not about what someone can do or how much money they have it's about building a bound a friendship and hopefully one day a family and marriage that's what I think I have spent 4years in a relationship with my ex and my most recent a year and out of that time I seen that neither one of them wanted what I wanted neither one of them understood what it was like to be loved Or maybe I misunderstood or I was the fool for staying when I should have left a long ass time ago when they shown me there true colors but like most we stay hoping that they'll change and see what they have never in your life wait around for anyone I speak from what I know and what I have been threw I was never happy with neither i stayed because i was in love but there is a point where you get so sick of being hurt to were you grow strength and self respect and walk away and say to yourself that you deserve better as you should no one should ever feel like they are in love alone. Walk away its going to hurt it's not going to be easy I still find myself crying from time to time but I love the choice I made bye walking away because I know deep down inside someone is out there meant for me to love me the way I will love them back treat me with the respect that I will treat them with never give up hope or say your done with love you have to go threw a few bad relationships to truly understand what your next one should be like you always learn from what you didn't do to better your next one always take a relationship that ends as a lesson learned.
If your like me who puts others before yourself stooooooooooooppppp that right now and put yourself 1st yes I'm telling you to be selfish because at the end of the day you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you and I can honestly say I didn't love myself enough so I allowed what I allowed because I just wanted to be held and loved but now when I look back it wasn't love it was just a lost girl looking for things she never had but now I love myself more than ever and building and uplifting myself more and more and I think you should know your value and your worth once you find it and know it watch how better you feel watch what you will not allow you have grown self respect for yourself. I have spoiled myself so when it comes to my next he has a lot of impressing and work to do to out shine me I set the bar high and I love it. Treat yourself how you would want someone else to treat you set a bar it can be how ever high you want it to be because someone out there is going to fight so hard to reach it aNd that's when you will know how much that person truly loves and cares for you.
My point is stop always being the one fighting let someone fight for you let some one show you what's it's like to be in love stop chasing after people who arent worth a damn thing and start looking at the person whos trying to show you how much they cAre and adore you.
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